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Okay, I have ordered a protein powder that I *think* I can tolerate. (Naked Rice, for anyone else in my situation. Thank you to @beneathhergaze for finding this for me) So we will see how this goes.

Also thank you to everyone else making suggestions. I feel bad shooting most of them down. I promise I'm not trying to be difficult. I just have complex health needs, and often, the most "obvious" solutions won't work for me.

To the people who read my "can't eat red meat due to allergies" and still sent me messages telling me to "just eat red meat," I am bonking you gently with the reading comprehension hammer.

To the one person who assumed I'm anti-red-meat for moral reasons and went on a rant in my inbox about how "people like me" "claiming allergies" are the reason allergies aren't taken seriously, I am bonking you considerably harder with the "don't be a fucking dick" hammer.

I'm literally allergic to red meat and red meat by-products. It will kill me. Maybe don't make assumptions about what people can and can't be allergic to just because you've never heard of it outside of alpha-gal syndrome. Dickhead.

Anyway. Thank you to everyone trying to help. I really appreciate the efforts being made to alleviate the mental load of figuring this out. When you're chronically ill, it can really just feel like one more fucking thing you have to deal with, and the temptation to say, "I'll do it when I feel better," is high, but in reality, you won't feel better until you do it so, yeah. Thank you. 💖

When I was going through horrific nausea from the lyme (and the doxy treatment 🫨) I pretty much lived off protein shakes. My pro-tip for making the powder blended better is to put the powder in the bottom of the glass, then splash a little bit of hot water over it and hit it with a milk frother (almost like making a cornstarch slurry 😅) before then pouring in the rest of the Liquid Of Choice. It helps the final product feel less gritty!

Also, for everyone else reading this: for the love of everything holy, take ticks seriously. Treat outdoor clothes with permethrin and shower with a scrub brush after every time spent in the brush. Lyme usually needs the tick to be attached for more than 24 hours, but there are other tick-borne illnesses that can be transmitted much faster. If you get flu-like symptoms after spending time outside, do not try to sleep it off. I got it from my own yard two years ago, it flattened me for over a year, and I STILL have lingering heart issues today.

Considering the recent targeted terminations against blogs run by transfems in the last couple of days (angel-athetos, fungalfaggot, coyote-roadkill, hound-mother, corpse-of-omelas-ageplayer and my previous blog, zebrabyopn3), some close friends and myself worked on a google form where users can make submissions for their terminated blogs. Too many of us have lost our blogs and everything in them, yet there's no existing record of blogs that have been terminated, so we want to change that. If you're not a transfem you can also answer, as we want data about all deleted blogs in general, like: the name of the banned blog, date of termination, and if there was a reason given or warning for the deletion (or not)

The form consists of 8 questions and takes around 3-5 minutes to answer. We'd appreciate sharing this with anyone that has been unfairly terminated, so we can create a record, so those blogs and their names can be remembered

this is super important for whatever legal anti discrimination action might result! Document document DOCUMENT. please share this around.

i think that all the people who argue about gender by saying "the woke left cant even define a woman" need to get hit with the "who are you" question by a buddhist monk. no, thats your name, who are you. no thats your profession, who are YOU. no you fucking idiot thats your species, who are YOUU. dumb bitch u cant even define yourself

see this guy gets it

I think Diogenes would be proud of us for these

the curse of summer is buying and eating an inadvisable amount of fruit in single sittings.

It drives me insane how many people dont realise how often they break the law and that if the full force of it was ever applied life would basically be unliveable. Like between traffic violations, petty workplace theft, account sharing and piracy alongside how common it is to have been in posession of some illegal drug at some point in your life. People still manage to get away with thinking "criminals" are people who commit crimes not just populations that are surveilled enough to be routinely prosecuted

Xie Lian (And Hualian) as Text Posts I found

Hua Cheng Version

Hua Cheng (And Hualian) but as Textposts I’ve found

Xie Lian Version

Happy birthday to this whore<33

Temple guard

I guess friendly reminder that you can't actually judge someone's socioeconomic status based on what they own and the classic republican "they can't be poor they own a smart phone/computer" argument doesn't suddenly stop being complete out of touch nonsense when a poor person makes it.

Anyway insert "y'all can't be trusted to eat the rich bcs you'll target taco bell shift leaders and people with playstations instead of actual billionaires" post here.

One time, in the local queer exchange, an older person was trying to sell a small painting by a long-dead, moderately well known artist for a couple grand and all these babies started screaming at them in the comments about how high the asking price was and how they should be donating the painting to a museum or the money to charity. And OP was like, "the artist gave me this as a gift bc we were friends and I'm only selling it to pay for chemo."

There's a story that goes around in conservative circles about "people on welfare who drive Cadillacs" (which, at least in the mid-20th Century, was a more expensive make of car than, say, a Ford). The implication is that people on welfare don't really deserve it, because if they had enough money for a Caddy, they have enough money to pay for food.

And, you know, there are a lot of reasons that someone who is poor might have something that started out expensive: maybe they lost their job or got divorced or had a medical crisis recently, and the car is from before that. Maybe it's really old and thus cheap. Maybe it was a gift from a family member with more money than they have (I drove a Mercedes Benz to school in high school ... but it was a thirty-year-old beater that could barely maintain road speed on a flat road, and which I got for free because it had been passed through several family members before it got to me). Maybe a lot of things.

But the interesting thing is where the story about welfare recipients in Cadillacs comes from. You see, it comes from an experiment they did in a city where they wanted to see who was getting welfare checks and how they lived to give proof that they didn't "deserve" the money. So they declared that one month, instead of checks being mailed out to people, they had to come to City Hall to pick them up.

Now, the thing is, a lot of poor people don't have cars, either because they're too poor to afford them, or because they are old and can't drive any longer. So this was a major problem for a lot of people. So the local boyscout troop (which had a lot of kids from upper-class families) organized rides for all of them. So yeah, a lot of people showed up in Caddys and Lincoln Towncars and other nice cars ... not because they owned nice cars but because the people who gave them the ride owned nice cars. But the story that goes around is about the "lazy scammers who are on welfare but drive luxury cars so they can't really be poor." That's the story they tell! It's not true, but it's the story.

If your assumptions of wealth and poverty is the same as conservatives, if the way you talk about poor people is indistinguishable from conservatives, you are not a progressive.

A demonstration of guzheng pieces from grades 1 to 10.

[eng by me]

honest to god we've got to start naming the elderly as a vulnerable group & calling their disabilities, disabilities. we sugarcoat and distance these things by only calling them "elderly," "old & frail," etc. most of them are disabled.

too many people completely separate disability from themselves in their mind. it's something that happens to other people. other sad people i don't want to think about. are they really even people, it's too much to bear thinking about that happening to a person... those background characters over there. it would never be me, i can't cope with thinking about that possibility.

this mass denialism of the fragility of the human body (YOUR human body) has created a whole category separate from the disabled - the "elderly." since anyone can join it if they live long enough.. no they can't be disabled. that's scary, and worse it's political. so they are just "old." so what they lost their hearing, their mobility, their heart function? that's just how it goes for old people. as if that's not a person as real as you. as if you wouldn't be devastated if that happened to you today (and it can btw). as if you won't be when it's your turn to be old, and disabled.

simultaneously the disabled are dehumanized as not people, and the elderly are dehumanized as not disabled. so the illusion of disability as separate can be upheld.

think about it. have you genuinely considered how your life will be as an elderly person? not the fantasy version we've built up societally as an old person that gets taken care of. but the reality of becoming disabled. having to rely on others when nobody has the capacity to help you. navigating government programs that are the assistance equivalent of hostile architecture. draining your bank account to pay for care. being stuck at home all day. being stripped of your dignity, agency, and humanity. if that all sounds horrifying, i implore you to start building a better world for disabled people now.

while we're at it, let's start naming pregnancy as a temporary disability too. such a missed opportunity for building empathy for long-term disabilities! we need to make these connections!

I know I've probably mentioned it before but also the elderly care at least in the USA is abysmal. Those who can themselves or with support afford a good elderly care home are going to get fewer, and the way the companies which own these homes treat profitability is not different just because they're handling people's lives. They are constantly cutting services, increasing rent, reducing quality of service, all for people who more or less have to plan around a period of stability. And they're still relatively lucky, because if you can't afford that, you're either on your own or scraping the bottom of the barrel in terms of residences. Some places are closer to neglectful hospitals and it's a nightmare to see the conditions. Which I suppose is much of the world now, but even my relatively limited experience with elderly care hasn't been very positive.

Hanging out with old people rules because after a while they trust you enough to confess to murder totally unprompted

Wait what.

Sometimes old ladies had to kick the ladder out from under their stepfathers when they were girls and that’s valid

oh, my little old lady murder story was her replacing the medication in her abusive husband's capsules with rat poison.

"back in the day, our grandmothers worked on their marriages and didn't get divorced!" nah, friend, they COULDN'T get a divorce so sometimes they killed their fuckin husbands. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

My grandma murdered her first husband the first time he beat their daughter.

My college was next to an assisted living facility and one time we went over there to draw people’s portraits so we could get practice drawing older people. The lady I was drawing idly told me that she "dealt quite handily with her first husband” while making a stabbing gesture. Five minutes later she requested I make sure not to draw her double chin. I honored that request.

So when I was a child my grandmother told all these great stories about growing up in the Alaskan wilderness. Amazing bad ass stories about her and my great-grandmother. I recently asked my mom why my great-grandmother moved from Texas to Alaska in the first place. Turns out my Great-grandfather was abusive to my great grandmother for years and she lived with that until the first time he hit my grandmother, who was like three at the time, my great-grandmother got him very drunk and beat him to death then moved to Alaska to hide from the cops.

Men don't realize their life expectancy went up thanks to divorce.

Source

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My mom is a gastroenterologist and she once told me that the old wives' tale of people who died of "stopped digestion" was pretty much made up to cover up for women who got fed up with their abusive husbands and slipped some rat poison into their dinner (esp in rural areas). Local doctors knew who these men were (everyone knew) and the community pretty much nodded along when the death certificate said natural causes. The widow would dress in black for a couple years and basically go on with her life.

When Money is the Weapon: Understanding Intimate Partner Financial Abuse 

back from the hospital

only reason im telling you this is because on the wristband they gave me they had a pronouns section but instead of just putting down my pronouns there was a barcode you could scan

its just a very funny visual. probably real as fuck for some of you

@abalidoth

i kind of wish the anti voting people wouldn’t dance around the idea of what happens after the election. Like okay, the democrats lose, you taught them a lesson (and fwiw, I do think its a legitimate message to send- the people are not happy with the actions and status quo of the DNC). Now What. Trump, the multiply indicted crime president who incited a violent mob upon the capitol, is now President. He has all the qualities you hate about Biden, AND more, except he and his administration have even less reason to be sensitive to the wishes of their democratic constituents. He is a puppet for the far right and white supremacists and christian nationalists. I really shouldn’t even have to go over this- we LIVED it already. Genuinely asking, is this what you want? Because frankly I do not think 4 more years of Trump is worth it over Biden. Your hands are not clean, this is the future you want to choose. I just don’t understand why.

"The revolution" is not an acceptable answer.

"the revolution" will outright kill people, the very ones doomers and accelerationists claim to be most concerned about. I shouldn't even have to qualify statements with "I don't like Biden". It isn't about liking it not liking him. It's about the fucking nightmare things will become under Trump. It's about surviving and working relentlessly and thanklessly for incremental change until larger change can be made, and a great many people invested in doing that work will either not survive or will be too burdened scrabbling to that they become unable to do that work. People need to fix their shit about this. In four years the fucking shitstain could be DEAD. Let's buy ourselves those four years for Christ's sake.

like i am sorry you are uncomfortable with the possibility of being complicit in the atrocities perpetrated by the global north. but guess what, you already are. it's the privilege of being a citizen in The imperial center that allows you to pretend that your uwu good person pilatepilled abstention of civic duty is morally neutral. citizenship in a power is complicity in its policy, and the only way to ease our complicity as citizens is to act with every means available to us. that includes voting.

People in the replies talking about all of the work they are doing in their communities "instead" of voting-- the restorative justice and the mutual aid and the land back and all of the other good, useful, and necessary work--

Why is this an instead? Why can you not do these things AND take a couple hours out of one day of your life to vote? Do you think any of this organization is going to be easier under Trump?

"I am doing these other kinds of activism instead of canvassing / phone banking / get out the vote" -- that makes sense! You have a finite amount of time and energy! No one can do all of the work!

"I am doing these other kinds of activism instead of voting" -- Uh-huh. And are these other kinds of activism in the room with us now? Or is your "activism" actually just "yelling on tumblr?"

If you were doing anything tangible in the world, it would be affected by the laws and policies you live under--the ones that will determine whether and what your kids eat at school; and what they learn there; and how your communities and protests are policed; and the conditions in the jails; and how likely you are to see the inside of one for sheltering undocumented people or providing abortion pills or DIY HRT.

If you were doing that work, you would know real people for whom a second Trump administration would mean deportation or forcible detransition or quitting college or going hungry, and you would need to be able to look them in the eye.

If you were doing that work, you would know that working with other people to achieve a goal sometimes requires compromising, even on issues that are important to you, but that getting things done, even incrementally, is worth that compromise.

If you were doing that work, you would have the experience of making things happen in the real world--gardens planted, children fed, houses built--and you would know that getting your hands dirty working is so, so much more satisfying than sitting alone and keeping them clean.

"I'm doing ~real important activism~ instead of voting--" Bullshit.