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Having experienced a lot of it in my 20s, I think some of the worst, pettiest, most straight up this-is-just-bullying-you're-passing-off-as-praxis incidences of Queer Infighting endemic to young people can be best understood as attempts to exercise power by people with very little power.
Like you're 22, you're queer, you've just become a Marxist, the scope of World Suck is overwhelming and you have $30 in your bank account. What can you do to feel like you have any power? Well, you can try to get your frenemy cancelled for cosplaying a character from a problematic show. You can write a public callout post over someone's obviously friendly use of a slur you don't think they technically have the right to reclaim. Doing this stuff can make you feel like you have power and your actions have an impact. Unfortunately the impact in question is a negative impact on other marginalized people. But that often takes some maturity and self-reflection to notice.
Everyone responding to this with some version of "people who do this must be ontologically evil, *I* have *never* felt tempted to lash out at a 'safe' target when I felt angry and powerless" is so sus to me.
There’s a lot of excellent examples of the difference between a million and a billion, but here’s my new personal favorite from a conversation I had today:
A million minutes ago was April 2021, the height of the COVID pandemic.
A billion minutes ago was November 121 CE, the height of the Roman Empire.
Maxwell saying he's the only one with intellectual curiosity in his family and then starting on this adventure and realizing he has basically no intellectual curiosity in comparison to the rest of the crew. Something something going to college/work/the wide world for the first time and suddenly everyone around you is better than you at something you thought made you special.
hey um. so sorry to tell you this, but op of that post plays toys kinda weird. yeah you should just block them, that's not how normal people play with toys
this is what shipping discourse sounds like to me
I lowkey side-eye people who say "people now are much more afraid of visibly aging than people in the past" and then use as evidence the number of people who are getting procedures now vs. in the past. Anti-aging cosmetic procedures have gotten MUCH cheaper and less invasive in the last 30 years. Surely that has to go some way toward explaining their growing popularity.
Like do you really think that if injectables had existed in the 1960s, women wouldn't have done them? Come on.
I lowkey side-eye people who say "people now are much more afraid of visibly aging than people in the past" and then use as evidence the number of people who are getting procedures now vs. in the past. Anti-aging cosmetic procedures have gotten MUCH cheaper and less invasive in the last 30 years. Surely that has to go some way toward explaining their growing popularity.
I feel like the reason certain dog-lovers insist cats are evil is because they read their body language as if they were dogs. So here’s a very basic guide to common “mean” things cats do that actually aren’t mean at all if you know what they’re thinking.
Rolling and exposing belly- attacks you when touched Does not mean: Give belly rubs! - haha I tricked you! Actually means: I’m playful! If you reach for my belly I’ll grab your arm and bite it because I think we’re playfighting!
Lazily exposing belly - still attacks when touched Does not mean: tricked you again! Actually means: I’m showing you my belly because I trust you. Please don’t break that trust by invading my personal space. I might accept a belly rub if I’m not ticklish and I know you well. Snapping at you while being pet Does not mean: I suddenly decided I dislike you! Actually means: You’re petting me in a way that gives me too much restless energy. Please focus on petting my head and shoulders instead of stroking the full length of my back next time.
Is in the same room but makes no attempt to interact Does not mean: I’m ignoring you Actually means: We’re hanging out! I’m being respectful by giving you space while still enjoying your company. Slapping/scratching your hand when you try to pet them Does not mean: I hate you! Actually means: You’ve failed to establish that we’re not playing, or the way you’re approaching me scares me. Be calmer, speak more gently, make eye-contact and blink slowly at me before you try again.
I love this post omg, thank you so much. As a lifelong cat person, dogs perplex me because they’re so completely different behaviourally.
I love dogs too but, I’ve been trying to tell people, you canNOT treat cats like you treat dogs. They arent the same animals and have very different personalities
P.s.: people often pet cats way too hard. Dogs like a firm pet or a pat on the belly, cats dont have the same bone structure and are more flexible than dogs so what you’re doing probably hurts them
Sitting and staring Does not mean: I am challenging you/plotting your demise/just generally evil and creepy. Actually means: I am a desert-adapted species, so my natural tears are very thick and keep my eyes moist for a nice long time. I do find people interesting and enjoy watching them. I just don’t need to blink very often!
Staring and blinking slowly Does not mean: I’m smug and think I am smarter than you. Actually means: I like you! But I don’t need to get up in your face to show it. I can just sit over here and blow kisses at you to show you I am glad you are around!
It’s very frustrating for me when people expect cats to act like dogs, or act like they’re deceitful. They aren’t! They just AREN’T DOGS.
Pour les chats 🐈💞
Get ready for “more reasons why I fucking love cats”
CATS 😍😍😍😍
when a cat turns their back on you, they’re not snubbing you. they’re trusting you to watch their back.
notice how when you’re unfamiliar but nonthreatening, they might loaf facing you and sorta halfway watch you. you’re not fully trusted, but you’re ok by them.
when you’re familiar and liked, they’ll often sit near you facing the same way. imitation of poses is a weird little way cats show solidarity. they do it to each other too. check out these bff’s:
they are doing this on purpose. it’s a buddy thing. so if you’re watching tv and a cat sits next to you and pretends to watch tv too, they are basically calling you bro and declaring friendship.
and if they really love and trust you, they’ll turn their back on you and go to sleep. they’ll sleep facing a wall in your presence, or lounge where they can’t see the room. this isn’t a snub, folks, this is true kitty love. they’re saying, “i feel safe when you’re around. i know nothing’s going to sneak up on me, because you’re here. i feel so safe i can stick my head under a pillow and snore with my butt pointed at you.”
farts aren’t an expression of love, though, as far as i know. they’re just farts.
Reminder that if you have someone at your job who is an open bigot, but you know you won't be able to get them fired or genuinely disciplined... don't forget to still keep receipts in case they try to advance.
It is so much easier to fuck up someone's promotion than it is to get them fired. In 2019 fucked up the promotion of a racist coworker who I KNOW would have had NOTHING happen to her if I'd reported her before she tried to advance. When someone is up for a promotion is the ideal time to go to HR or the hiring manager with Concerns and Information They Should Be Aware Of.
pappy and olethra's relationship is so strange and so wonderful to me
Imagine you're at a fan meet up for James Cameron and he's just signing shit as usual. Then one day some people from his submarine trip are like "Jimmy! Paula found Atlantis!" and he just up and runs out of the place like "Holy shit, Atlantis!" and minutes later you see him booking it away from the KGB in America for some reason in a sixty year old trailer.
That's Montgomery LaMontgommery.
No, no, not quite.
You’re a member of Congress and James Cameron is there advocating for the importance of preserving shipwrecks and not reclaiming them. He speaks so passionately that a key swing vote decides to resign from Congress altogether and go live in the water and dedicate their life to preserving coral reefs. Cameron has to remind them their safety is important and that they should at least live on a boat. They literally run away.
Then some people from his submarine show up with a nepo baby and a sovereign citizen, saying Paula found Atlantis but she’s in trouble, he runs out to also go find Atlantis to save Paula, and minutes later is driving down Capitol Hill, shooting at the KGB from a Ford Model T.
That’s Montgomery LaMontgommery.
Our dishwasher was broken for the past ten days. Now that it’s fixed, I feel like everyone who’s grown accustomed to having a dishwasher should have to live without one for at least one week per year. I appreciate my dishwasher so much more now. Instead of “I have to do the dishes” I find myself thinking “I GET to put the dishes into the DISHWASHER.”
the father the son and the holy spirit
my favorite thing about navigating fanfiction is finding a really good one and being all “oh boy this was good, I hope they have more!” and literally every other story they’ve ever written was for like Miami Vice
the tag game on this post is so strong
it’s so fucking funny in leverage when they don’t tell you what everyone’s doing and then the mark sees some Man being ominous or threatening in the background and they have 10000% reason to be completely scared but you as the viewer are just like oh hey eliot
“I asked chatGPT” well I asked my friend Tao Yang and he is standing about 10 seconds away and is going to run at you screaming
