Then I will run and run and run, until the dawn

sleepy girls let’s live today with intention (the intention of going to bed early after doing what we can manage). ily

the triple burden (housework, childcare AND paid employment) IS a real issue that feminists have been discussing for decades... but the way tiktok tradfem tradwife girlies have twisted that into "it's too much stress for women to take on all the housework AND work full-time, so we should ~nurture our divine femininity~ by quitting our jobs becoming housewives and relying completely on our Strong Men to support us financially!!" rather than "it's too much stress for women to take on all the housework AND work full-time, so maybe men could start pulling their fucking weight around the house more and do the dishes every now and again"

"When peace like a river attendeth my way, when sorrows like sea billows roll, whatever my lot, thou hast taught me to say, it is well, it is well with my soul."

Hazel McNab (born in 1959). British Kynance Light (2023) Reduction linocut print

Bridgerton inspired Pink Gown

I made this gown after season 2 but didn't actually take picture until now. its been hanging living room for a year. I love this fabric but sadly the store I got it from closed down soon after I bought it. I would love more of it.

the gloves didn't stay on long

I think we need to get more comfortable with the idea that sometimes shitty, racist, homophobic, bigoted people are still incredibly talented.

I feel like every time I see a post addressing someone’s shitty behavior the post also takes the time to mention that they’re not even good at [x] anyway. And that’s just not always true? Equating being good at a skill as being morally good is just not necessary. Someone can be a fantastic writer, can have a beautiful singing voice, can create breathtaking artwork, and still be a horrible person.

I know part of this is probably just the instinct to dislike everything about a person when you dislike them, but I also think this mindset leads to people defending creatives way past where they should, because if bad people create bad art, then if this person creates art that I like and resonates with me, then they can’t be a bad person!

And you know. That’s just not true. Those two things are simply completely unconnected and I think it’d be healthier if we all started disconnecting them in our heads.

You must kill the voice in your mind that tells you that good art is only made by moral, upstanding people. The most monstrous people you have ever met are capable of art that would make you weep. It is the contradiction at the heart of the human experience.

We create to create, not because we are good or bad. We critique the worldview and beliefs forwarded by that art, but the craft of the art can still be excellent.

Creation is not ethical or moral. It is human.

hope I'm not too far off-base with this addition but I think this stuff is also important because like... if you let yourself get into the habit of thinking this way (that is, looking at things in black and white and assuming good art is made by good people), you ALSO risk turning into the sort of person who can never just dislike something as a matter of personal taste. y'know, the type of person who thinks a movie is boring or unfunny and immediately goes on their phone to dig up dirt on the actors, or who only feels comfortable criticizing something when they can find moral confirmation for emotional responses that they're afraid might need defending. at minimum it's a very shallow way to engage with art and prevents you from properly considering why YOU personally like or don't like things, and at worst it can make you insufferable and/or difficult to trust, because people start to wonder if they're just one bad interaction away from you deciding they're not only annoying but probably secretly evil too.

shitty people often make great art and do nice things, and the kindest and coolest people in the world are still capable of creating lackluster things or hurting people's feelings. people are complex like that, you have to approach them with more nuance than a cartoon character or you're gonna lose track of your priorities very easily

I had to read Gone with the Wind for an English class. Yes, I read the whole thing, not using sparknotes or what-have-you to cheat my way through. (Side tangent: I’ve seen fanfics that are longer than this book, which is just damn impressive when you have a printed comparison in hand)

I honestly enjoyed how well written it was, and the attention to detail to the events of the war. That did not make it any less racist.

Being able to critically think about complex issues like this makes you a better citizen. And knowing how to balance being informed or taking enjoyment in something but not necessarily agreeing with it in whole (or vice versa) is also beneficial in both your personal and social life.

To that end: There are plenty of times I thought a popular movie or piece of art was not for me, and times when I found enjoyment in really bad or cheesy or unfamiliar things. Knowing how to accept that as it is is the difficult part, but you come to learn more about yourself, or grow more confident in yourself, for it.

they should invent a hobby that doesn't require potentially destroying your wrists

If you broaden your horizons just a little, there's a whole world of hobbies out there that destroy your knees instead

Finally a poll about the things that really matter

Sometimes math is bad and then sometimes you’ll come across a little guy like ŷ which is a predicted value and learn that it’s called y-hat. ‘Cause he’s got a little hat. And then math’s not so bad.

If you're in the UK and wondering who to vote for to ensure we dump the Tories in a ditch, take a look at Tactical voting. This is such an important year. Throw the tories in the bin.

stopthetories.vote also :)

while there are legitimate examples of hypocritical thinking in...probably every subculture imaginable i feel like at least 80% of the posts online that are like "people say they want X, but then they do contradictory behaviour Y" are describing two different people with opposing opinions

here is my favorite variation of this point, because it inexplicably uses various goomba variants to make its point

yeah.

Holy shit I knew it was bad but this is DIRE

There’s more content on ao3 for my old Latin textbook curriculum than there is for raid shadow legends and I think that says a lot

wait hold on let’s set raid to the side why’s your latin curriculum on ao3

It’s a series of a couple books that follow the story of a Roman family and you have to learn grammar and translate each chapter

I read through the results and apparently a lot of people ship Cornelia (daughter/main girl) and Flavia (her friend who was there for like 4 chapters and never again)

So my Latin textbook’s fandom’s most popular ship is gay, basically

I mean, we’re surprised that your Latin textbook can drink water. We’re not particularly caught off guard by the fact that that water is wet.

We need to start writing fanfic about our cousin Throckmorton, stat.

Basically I think that part of the problem driving the culture war is that things that were formerly said by members of an in-group about members of an outgroup behind their backs are now being said in a permanent form that is accessible to all over social media, and this makes people hate each other way more than they otherwise would and harden against one another. I don't think it's useful to look at it in terms of individual virtue, you need to look at social dynamics.

There's a huge difference between "own space" conversations and "public space" conversations that has just gotten lost in the age of social media. Like, there are tons of shared experiences and implied caveats and even baseline understanding that you can assume in an in-group space that get lost in public spaces. And that's before you get into things like in-group venting, where you might just need to say something in the most shitty, un-nuanced, unpolished way to vent your spleen, whereas in mixed company you'd want to spend more time to ensure you're expressing things correctly.

And now more and more people have grown up online and never really had access to private own spaces, and feel like having those conversations in public spaces is natural and correct. So the orthodoxy becomes that, actually, real allies can hear any amount of shitty, cruel, thoughtless shit about themselves and it will never affect them. Actually, if there's any amount of cruelty that can drive you out of a community, then you were always a fake. Or, conversely, that you must always tone police yourself forever. That anything shitty, said off the cuff in frustration, represents your truest, most genuine self. Any more measured and nuanced thought is the mask, your worst self is mask off.

Nobody is their best self all the time, people experience emotions and need to vent, but having our rawest moments be in public spaces instead of own spaces is bad for everyone.

i feel like one of the weirdest realizations you (or at least i) eventually have a few years into transitioning and being mostly around other trans people, is that moment where u notice that like ur brains mapping of like specific voices to specific genders is just kinda gone. like it rly is just all social constructs programmed into u by society, and living outside societies idea of gender just kinda melts that shit away, and it's not just voices, like other traditionally gendered attributes also suddenly don't matter anymore*

*except for myself of course, i am obviously totally failing at being a girl but everyone is doing it perfectly, dysphoria is so awesome lmao

the real deep message here btw isn't just about gender, but about the general ability of the human brain to shed off bad socialization and habits if we change the environment we're in for the better and i feel like that's massive

So many hours it took me to complete the newly invented double knit twisted rib bind off on this cowl! The bind off was developed for me by a member of one of my fibre communities and they did such a fantastic job as it is stretchy and completely matches the invisible cast on. I put it over a pool noodle raft to block so it will dry nice & smooth all the way around.

Hat tip @eloso ! Lots of innovation in that

Screaming? Can I screaming? SCREAMING.

This is incredible!

Time for a new poll! I'm curious to see the spread of answers on this one (and hear any other series not on the list.) Tried to go for a range of older and newer series on here, more on the older end of the spectrum, but I can't cover everything with the limited poll options here, so I hope you'll share your answers! :)

Please reblog for a larger sample size, thank you!