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I'm concerned.

@agirlwithachakram / agirlwithachakram.tumblr.com

I don't know everything, but you can teach me what you know, and then we'll both know more than we did. About me: woman, 30, bi, cis, she/her pronouns. ao3: GlassRose
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cleolinda
AITA for banning my husband and father in law from the delivery room due to their intensely stressful/creepy behavior during my pregnancy?

There’s a famous Reddit post from 2020 where a pregnant woman wrote that her husband and father-in-law were a little too comfortable with their certainty that she was absolutely going to die in childbirth just like her husband’s late mother. It was to the point where her FIL was insisting that she go ahead and put all her clothes into storage, because she was obviously going to die in the hospital and it would save them the grief of packing up her things afterwards. Like. It was WILD.

When I tell my husband [that she feels suspicious of her FIL], he calls me paranoid, but I feel like my FIL WANTS me to die; his whole life identity for the past 35 years has been “amazing single dad” (never dated or had close friends or even hobbies really), and it seems like he’s looking forward to being able to guide my husband through what he went through. At this point, I’d honestly be happy to never see my FIL again, and I certainly don’t want him in the delivery room, especially since he told me he was “putting [his] foot down” about me not being “allowed” to have an epidural…. My husband, in addition to backing his dad on everything, acts like my due date is my death date, and has completely pulled away from me.

The commenters (and me, honestly) were convinced that the husband and FIL were either going to kill her outright to fulfill this expectation, or just make decisions about her care that might conveniently let her die.

And then she never posted again.

Over the last four years, people have frequently mentioned that post, always leading to a thread of people saying, “Oh god, I still worry about that woman.” I did too. It became one of those famous unresolved posts that people always wondered about.

Until yesterday, when someone on r/BestOfRedditorUpdates dug up a 2022 update she had posted on a different account:

TLDR; I had a beautiful and healthy baby girl, and I divorced my ex-husband. I lived, obviously.

She writes that she put her foot down about having her own mother in the delivery room rather than her FIL (!), and she WOULD be getting an epidural. Her husband lost his shit. And in his outburst, he let slip--

I admittedly lost my temper, and told him that I wasn’t going to die- it wasn’t my fault his father’s trauma wormed it’s way into his head, and that he needed to fix it without taking it out on me. He yelled at me that he didn’t need therapy. That caught me a little off guard; I asked him why he went to his therapist and was given advice about my death if he felt he didn’t need it. His expression gave it away, and he caved not long after. It turns out there was no therapist. It was just his dad. During the times he was supposed to be at therapy, he was with his dad. I’m still fuming.

And that was when she got the fuck out.

I’ll wrap this up- I’ve got an adorable little toddler tugging at my leg atm. I’m alive, I’m happy, and I’ve got my baby in my arms. Life is good.

I truly never thought we'd see a resolution to this, and I feel like there's probably a good number of people who remember it, so I thought you might want to know.

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fox-bright

I have thought about that post every week for years. I was so happy to see the update yesterday, it was such a damn relief.

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vamprisms

people are so mean about horror movie victims like. sorry but if i had gone to a cabin in the woods with my friends as a teenager you couldn't have stopped us from reading aloud from the evil tome. how were they supposed to know the ancient curse was real they're like 17

Okay but I think you could do something really interesting with that premise. The main character gets glimpses of what they escaped. They see news articles and recognize their hometown. They're on a date with their coffee shop romance and get a phone call that an old friend has gone missing. Let's sit there and explore the horror of a near miss. Let's explore the survivor's guilt. The helplessness of being too broke, too far away, too bone-tired exhausted from day to day survival to help. The constant nagging feeling of 'sure, I got out but did I do enough? Could I have stopped this? I put my own oxygen mask on first but should I have stayed and died? Could I have made a difference?'

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about varric maybe dying, i feel like the sundance kid

me: hey. what are you doing?

trick: killing varric

me: (reaches for gun, not armed, gives up, goes inside) Take him. take him.

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kirkwallguy

Bioware: got some straight gas 🧨 this strain is called "dragon age: the veilguard" and you'll be zonked out of your gourd 🎇

me: yeah whatever. I don't feel shit.

5 minutes later: dude i swear i saw anders in the background for a split second

my mutuals pacing: one of the companions is lying to us

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sydsrichie

it’s a major oversight to me that there isn’t an option for a dumped HoF to have a lil rebound fling with anders in awakening. we’re talking about a man who later takes time out of his harebrained death spiral with the spirit/demon possessing him to shoot his shot with hawke, his dear friend of six years who is either in a committed relationship or a convoluted situationship that no sane person would go anywhere near. and you’re trying to tell me PRE-justice fuckboy anders with the earring wouldn’t be batting his eyelashes at the HoF like oooohh commander of the grey 😇😇 I heard that someone made you cry 😢😰🙅‍♂️ maybe you should… rest your head on my shoulder?? 🤭🤭 maybe you could tell me all about it, I’m a great listener 🥺🥺

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robotpussy

[image id: an excerpt from the article linked above titled " ‘Sometimes I wonder if I’ll come back’: Palestinian birdwatchers defy danger to scan the skies" that reads:

"The migration hasn't stopped," says Shuaini. "These birds, despite the watz they are still coming. And it gives us hope"

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valiumvenus

“I want to show the world this is not just a country of war. It’s not just death, bombings and killings. There are people who are interested in wildlife, even when nothing is available to them,” he says.

“There is life here. And we love life.”

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I know it's because he's a manipulative bastard but Khonshu telling Marc "you are worth protecting" like the thing he was so desperate to hear from his dad

There's a literal god saying "I have your back. I'll keep you safe. You're my favorite. You are special and worthy and I'm not going to abandon you." No wonder Marc went all in for him.

daddy issues club

it's sooooo

like, he's afraid of his mom and he thinks maybe she's right but has enough self preservation (and care for Steven) to just try to avoid her and thinking about her and Randall entirely

but his daddy issues! this man has tumbled from father figure to father figure trying to find someone to protect him and Khonshu is the closest he's gotten.

actual dad? i won't divorce your abuser but I will try emotional blackmail on you. USMC? too broken, get the fuck out. old CO/merc company boss? you're in the way, just die already.

Khonshu, though? I own you, but you're my special boy. have a magic suit of protection. i'll warn you about danger, I'll guide you and give you purpose. congrats on your wife, she seems awesome. you're mine forever. you want to make a life for Steven, that's fine as long as you keep him out of our business. KILL THESE PEOPLE. good boy.

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Can someone just hit me with a supercut of the threesome people because I don't think I can sit through these people with faces that know email and their unbelievably anachronistic costuming just for that

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I appreciate everyone getting 5 seconds of characters and immediately picking which one to romance but y'all I am so excited to finally get to smooch Harding

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everyone who sees my surname in print pronounces it wrong even if they hear it out loud and I have no idea why. it ends in "on" and everyone pronounces it with the short o. but it's more of a schwa. no other surname is pronounced that way, no one says PattersON, JohnsON, NelsON, RenTON. And they know to stress the first syllable! so what the fuck!

my maternal uncle says it wrong. his sister has had this name for over three decades?!?

there is a famous actor with my surname. It is one of the variants of a known Irish name. I had to correct my last boyfriend multiple times. I have no idea what is triggering people to stress this vowel.

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I thought I'd do better but there were just some things that apparently never crossed my dash. However, as a smut writer in good standing, I have to dust my shoulders off a bit at my results.

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kudouusagi

I don't know shit about this website.

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rewordthis
52% Half marks or more! You know some tumblr stuff! I’m so proud
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