An unofficial subreddit for LGB Trains, otherwise known as Lehmann Gross Bahn. The original Big Train
Welcome, Welcome, Welcome. This is the subreddit to discuss anything and everything about Armchair Expert, hosted by Dax Shepard and Monica Padman
A subreddit for submitting pictures of cakes you or someone you know has made. We love seeing all kinds of submissions! All skill levels and types of cakes (cupcakes, cheesecakes & cookie cakes too!) are welcome.
/r/texts - The Conversations Subreddit - a subreddit to submit your funny, weird, or random coversations from your mobile or cell phone.
The BIGGEST and BEST subreddit for America's pastime: baseball. The focus is mainly on MLB, but other posts about other leagues and levels are welcome! Mike Trout **For the best user experience, we recommend disabling the Reddit redesign.**
A picture & discussion place dedicated to the wonderful farting footballs that are French Bulldogs.
What is a ceremony sand? I've never heard of it
It’s also new trends in my country (Asia) past 5 years, normally couple will pour wine on glass tower, but young people these days not interested in wine, so they pouring rice, pour sand instead. It’s kinda cute and can put it in display at home.
It's funny cuz I'm Viet and I've never seen this done at any Viet weddings and I've been to many
Then I realized those people are like 35 now... Not really young
"35 now... Not really young"
um excuse me?
2004 was 20 years ago.
I guess 30 is the cut off range 😂😂
Comment removed by moderator
Search rót cát tiệc cưới or rót gạo tiệc cưới, plenty of them. :) recently supermodel Minh Tú also do rót gạo.
But tradition is tradition. Not everyone does rice or sand pouring. Pouring wine and cutting cake still classic.
What does that look like??
A ceremony sand, also known as a unity sand ceremony, is a symbolic ritual where two people pour sand from separate vessels into a single vessel. The joined vessel represents the marriage of the couple's hopes, dreams, and values. The ceremony can be performed as part of a larger wedding or as a stand-alone ritual.
We did ours as a part of the actual wedding. Didn't think it needed to be said to not shake the piece of art created during someone's wedding ceremony.
Here it was before being shaken
Edit: it was not shaken by a child. Our wedding was 18+. They were not drunk. It was not an accident from picking it up, we saw them shaking it.
That's...really cool. I love this. And I presume the shaker will no longer be welcome in your home?
Perhaps for your next anniversary you can do another? Perhsps a private Ritual between you and your SO
That's a great idea I, shared it with her and she liked it. It was her friend who shook it, but she's from out of state. She definitely will be reconsidered for events going forward. I edited to include a before the shake photo..
Was her friend at the wedding? I could see someone seeing a vessel with different colored sand and thinking it was something from sharper image that makes cool looking patterns when you shake it.
You could also use a larger glass jar for the next one, mix the existing sand completely so it is all the same tone, and use a contrasting colour for the new addition - that way the existing sand is still a part of the future one.
Count yourself lucky, you now know which one of her friends shouldn't be left alone with the baby.
Consider pouring some resin in the empty space if you redo it. It should be able to hold it all in place.
Worth doing a test run or two before the actual one.
If you fill it to the top next time, maybe with a 3rd coloured sand, it won’t matter if someone tries to shake it. Scorch the top layer to ensure. Before putting the lid on.
It's similar to sand art that's popular in sandy touristic areas (go figure). They usually fill them to the top and pack them to stop the patterns moving, so if you don't mind the vessel being filled with another sand it will keep everything in place no matter what, be it moving shelves or unruly guests.
Wow that's really beautiful. If someone shook that I'd be fuming.
We did this at our wedding too, so I know the meaning is to show two separate identities being combined into one. It's definitely a good idea to redo it.
I'm just going to throw this idea out there too, if you want to reuse the original sand/container you could say "hey our lives are symbolically super intertwined now and our union is the foundation of the rest of our lives together and then maybe add a new color of sand each time you bring a pet or kid into the family, since there is space for it. (that would be what I would do if that had happened to ours). Also, when I read your original post, I thought to myself "that b*tch" - I am so sorry someone did that. Hope the rest of the wedding went well.
Ceremony sand aside, I'm trying to imagine the thought process in seeing a glass vessel in someone's home and thinking "Imma shake that."
Maybe she thought it was one of those things where you tip it over and it makes cool designed and, essentially, it was meant to be tipped. That would make her incredibly stupid but at least not malicious.
Based on a comment from OP the shakening happened at the wedding
You should always shake the bottle a little bit for your wedding anniversary, as a symbol for how you grow closer over the years.
They should just make it a mix of cinnamon and sugar and eat it on their toast.
Brilliant
I'm gonna be real with you, the shaken up sand much better represents marriage. Don't get me wrong, the before is a very cute idea, but sand was never meant to be stuck in place and neither do relationships.
"Like sands through the hourglass, so are the days of our lives".
Damn I just flashed back to being a kid at my grandma’s house
Dust... Wind... Dude!
Yeah, but this just makes it even harder to know which grains of sand belong to who in the divorce. /s
Then they have to dump the whole thing out and separate each grain. "That one's white, it's mine!" "If you think that's white you must be blind!"
Except it is not the "friend's" place to shake the keepsake.
if you go with their metaphor the "friend" is all the stuff they don't control in their marriage. It's the bullshit that happens that you have to overcome.
They aren't justifying what the person did, which I personally think is disgusting and friendship ending. They are just making good of a bad situation.
Edit: Just to say.. it's not friendship ending because that person is some horrible asshole who should be shunned. It's friendship ending because I wouldn't be friends with someone who can make such a bad judgement call on what is appropriate. Doing something like this is just a giant red flag you can't function well enough to not most likely cause more drama in my life.
I get it, but leaving it as is to me seems just as strongly symbolic. It stands for everything they hoped for on the day of the wedding, and it was the first thing they created together as a married couple (or the last thing as an unmarried couple, I've seen it twice at two different points, once during the wedding and once as the "starting event" of the reception)
Did them a favor if anything. Imagine moving to a new apartment or house years down the line and having to stress about the fucking sandbottle shaking in transit.
We dumped ours out in the backyard lol
It’s one thing for the sands to mix over time as that can also be seen as representative of a relationship/marriage but to go out of your way to fuck something up that’s important to someone you know is fucked
based and half glass full pilled
Isn’t the sand being mixed together a better metaphor for the marriage though?
Also, yeah you shouldn’t touch people’s shit but expecting sand poured into something to never move and stay as it is forever is ambitious to say the least.
According to OP this literally happened at their wedding. So less "forever" and more "a few hours".
"we had a good run... Anyway, want some cake?"
My understanding was that the two sands will eventually mix anyways and truly become one.
Wow, it does look beautiful, thanks for the photo. I'm sorry that it happened
Pouring rice . Supermodel Minh Tú.
A super cliche unity ritual that some couples do during a wedding. There are a bunch of variations on this; like pouring a candle, planting a tree, making a cocktail, etc.
I see them more often at non-religious ceremonies, but they're likely a replacement for the marriage/unity candle lighting I've seen at so many catholic weddings.
It's like going to a wedding and having someone read that bit from Corinthians 13 (Love is patient...). Everyone does it.
Comment removed by moderator
I love the concept of this unity sand but realistically it's very easy to get mixed up...even during the ride back from the venue back home
Isn’t that the point… your marriage is bound to get messed up over time /s
and separating the two after they've been merged is a pain in the ass?
Can confirm, am a divorce lawyer.
My cat had a solution to that after my mo divorced her second husband: knock it off it’s display so it shattered everywhere
Grain by grain
We added glitter to our sands. Now the mess sparkles.
I love that!
I know you're just joking but honestly this is a very on the nose analogy.
If the point of "ceremony sand" is to represent the hopes, dreams and values of the two people, then after the wedding, those hopes, dreams and values should be homogeneous. Your dreams should be their dreams and their values should be your values. Now you still are an individual person, and you still have unique dreams and values that you might not necessarily share with your SO, and that can be seen by the small clusters of white and grey sand still together. But the majority of the sand should be mixed because as a couple you guys should be on the same page with a lot of these things.
You joke, but honestly, I like the shaken one better and I was thinking the same thing. Marriage has its ups and downs over the years, and the fact that this is even more blended and still looks harmonious after being shaken is symbolic of a healthy union.
I remember thinking how pretty the sand was when we first did it. But now I just love what we have left so much more. To me, it represents a journey. One of our cats knocked it over, our youngest spilled some out to play with it, we've moved with it multiple times, it's not even in the original container anymore, that broke when the cat knocked it over. Its not the same as the day we got married but then again, neither are we.
No no. Your right. Marriage is messy, Gets complicated over time, and eventually looks completely different than when you first saw it. It's a perfect metaphor.
I totally agree with you but either way.. that’s up to OP not some person who watched the ceremony happen. If op wanted to shake it or it unfortunately got mixed up do to the bride and groom that’s one thing. What the shaker did was still disrespectful af.
Depends on the container. Mine is about the right dimensions to be an ant farm, and the layers have remained the same over a decade, with multiple moves, a couple of kids... If you don't want your shit shaken, don't put it in a shaker is basically what I'm saying.
And yes, I asked, and no, my wife wont let me actually put ants in our sand container.
Sad thing is that they planned to do that later and someone shook it AT THE WEDDING RECEPTION.
Absolutely not I am way too sentimental to stay friends with someone who would intentionally take a moment like that away from me and my partner. Hell no 😆
Edit: typo
Sounds like it was a plus one that did it....
It was the bride‘s friend 😕
“For next time” hopefully there won’t be one 😂
well someone else proposed trying it again for their anniversary & OP seemed to like it, so there may very well be a "next time" lol
Yes, remember this the next time you get married, OP.
Pro tip!
OP must have really good self-control cuz I would've thrown the whole bottle at the person who shook it
Hey, I'm sorry, this sucks! As someone who also did a sand ceremony, we were explained that the purpose is to meld together overtime. Every move, every redecorating, every bump from pet or child causes the sand to shift and blend more. It's a testament to a life blended together to have a sand jar that is well mixed in a couple of decades. I'd take this as a good omen and I'd uninvite the friend to future events... All the best and congratulations!
My wife was cleaning and accidentally knocked ours over shattering the vase. We picked out a new vase together, carefully salvaged as much sand from the shelf as we could, and poured it all into the new one.
It’s a perfect representation of how our love has changed and evolved in new ways the 10 years we’ve been together.
I agree with your interpretation of it. Wishing you many years together!
Perfect representation of my life too. Shattered, full of glass and total chaos….
/s
Well at least your life is full of glass and not half empty.
If you really loved her, you would’ve manually separated every single granule by hand
Very tangential but reminds me my little neighbor would visit while i was renovating. She wanted so bad to spray paint something. Can't even remember what. She snuck and did it anyway on the floor leaving obvious overspray everywhere. Later i confronted her about why she didn't listen and lied about it. But actually I'll never fix it cuz it constantly reminds me of her little visits. I'd rather have the memories than a perfect floor
I fucking love this
Edit: some people think I’m missing the point, I’m not, it was how this person worded it that got me
Except the part where one random friend from out of town can shake things up so much that it can become unrecognizable in a matter of seconds. I don’t like that implication.
The actions of a third party unified the two quickly. Perfect metaphor.
But it’s not unrecognizable. It’s blended and messy and not where you started but still the same sand coming together. Struggle can either bring you closer together or further apart; life (and marriage) is full of “random friend events” and can/will roundhouse kick you straight in the fucking face with them sometimes- it’s what you do with it that counts.
ETA: two deaths in my close family, two additional major health scares (both are okay) in my close family, a major health event personally, and a major injury personally all in less than a year. Only saw one of the deaths coming- the rest absolutely felt like a random friend event.
Agreed - it’s like “shit happens, how are you going to handle it?” With grace and understanding or vitriol and disgust?
My husband and I poured sand into an hourglass for our ceremony for this reason! Every year on our anniversary we turn it over and watch the sands blend more together over time. It’s a reminder of how much closer we are after each passing year❤️
Ooooh that’s such a beautiful idea
This is beautiful.
OP should redo the sand on top of the shaken base now, so they still have the layers but what will hopefully become a wtf funny story as the base and start of their melding.
That's what we've done every time it gets compacted.
Commenting as an unmarried person I hope I am not out of line in doing so but I thought that was the purpose, that you are now one and the removal of the hard lines was you becoming two halves of one whole. Also love your wording, I hope it makes the ops view on this a positive
I think the main reason is the rise of smoke alarms in the 80s making unity candles less fashionable :p
Yup we moved and I knew it would get blended some as we traveled and told myself exactly this. The point is that our lives are now inexorably mixed together. It makes sense for the sand to be as well.
And yet the continued blending of the sand through unexpected events is an even better metaphor for your marriage now.
We are all like dust in the wind, dude.
Like sand through the hourglass, so are the days of our lives.
The grains of sand are slow to fall, but the vessel of time is quick to empty.
Dust. Wind. Dude.
🎸 🐎 🐴 Wild Stallions 🎶 🎵
I like that perspective. Ours is so mixed together after 3 moves cross-country in 9 years that you can’t even tell that it’s two different colors.
Honestly that makes it really cool
My wife and I never did the sand thing, but after 11 years we feel more like one person than two. We’re inseparable. I wouldn’t really want mine to be distinct anymore.
That was my first thought. Congrats, now your lives are intermingled and bound together tightly, much more difficult to separate.
It's also uglier. But hey, that's how these things go.
Right? It’s mixed now, just like their lives.
I had never heard of this tradition before, but thinking about it now I'd actually prefer the symbolism of the shaken together sand. Even better if you create the layered sand while dating/engaged, and shake it together during your wedding.
The non-shaken sand did look cool as an art piece though.
And later on, throw in some 'life pebbles'. And hope you never have to add the 'divorce gravel'...
Ceremony sand sounds like something where the venue charges you $1k for $2 worth of sand.
The wedding industry is probably equivalent to the GDP of a small country and it’s all unnecessary and wasteful.
I recently was invited as a guest to a wedding for the first time. The couple spent twice what I take home in a year on the wedding. It was nice (but that was it). Lovely food, lovely day, she looked heavenly ... But it was over and done with in a day, and I can't stop thinking that they could've bought a house with the money and got a really stable future for their future kids 😭
I get buyer’s remorse when I order food delivery. That amount of money would probably send me to the asylum.
😂
I know, same. I'm usually the last person to yuck someone else's yum, and I am really truly happy that they got their lovely day surrounded by family and friends. But OH MY GOD I haven't stopped thinking about the money! It's life changing money and it was spent on a single day
People who have that money to spend on a wedding can usually also afford homes so they aren't making that choice.
My wife and I wanted a small ceremony (20 ppl max) and when we started pricing things out our heads were spinning from the cost at even very modest venues. Then we started thinking of renting a big lake house or a few cabins and doing it there, still expensive but it sounded more fun.
Then we had the idea of just saying fuck it and spending every penny on ourselves and doing a killer destination wedding/honeymoon with just us, no one else. We had an amazing two week vacation and wedding and while our families weren’t thrilled it was absolutely perfect. A lot of people we’ve spoken to have said how they wish they did something like that because their wedding was such a blur and not worth the tens of thousands it costs. To your point we could have put $20k towards our future but we also wanted a once in a lifetime experience and to celebrate our new marriage exactly how we wanted.
We did hold a small party at our house when we got home so there was something for everyone else.
Your comment made me decide to look into it. At 72 billion, the size of the wedding industry in the US alone is equivalent to the GDP of Belarus and a bit shy of the GDP of Ghana, both of which are medium sized developing countries. The industry dwarfs the GDP of many truly small countries, it is over 1,000 times the size of Tuvalu’s economy for example.
$2? You need a new sand guy.
they had to pay some kid in a poorly ventilated workshop to color each grain though. that isnt free.
i had exactly the same thought
I found who did it, he hates sand.
I, too, enjoy killing Yuenglings
I’d rather execute order 420.
That was very Darude of them.
Doodoo dadoo a loolaloo
Dododododododododododo
Just shake it in the opposite direction
I just wanted you to know this comment is so funny to me that I’m jealous of how your brain works that you came up with such a deliciously ludicrous thing to say in response to this post.
Theoretically there is a perfect way to shake the thing to get the sand back to its original position. Good luck with that though. Better off sending it to the person in Massachusetts that will sort it
i hacked your webcam when you posted this
Since there is a lot of confusion, let me clear things up:
This is a wedding ceremony where two people pour the sand into the vase; making them inseparable. This is done during the officiating and is a very special part of the ceremony and is performed in front of all the guests in attendance. You end up with a very beautiful piece of art you created during the wedding.
Ours did not fill completely, as it took a long time for us to pour the sand as we had chosen small mouthed bottles. We were going to finish the sand and fill it to the top after the ceremony was completed.
It was on the Mr. And Ms. Table, on display, when it was shaken. Yes it's just sand. No we are not that upset. It's mildly infuriating, hence the post.
Wait, this happened while the wedding reception was still going on??? For some reason, I was picturing this happening in your home later on. This just got worse for me now. Sorry it happened.
OP says in another comment that it was a friend from out of state who saw and heard this part during the ceremony…but still shook it after🫣🫣
Yeah, it happening during the ceremony changes a lot here.
I read the post thinking "IDK that I'd assume what looks like standard sand art in someone's home to be sacred marriage sand." and was giving whoever it was some small benefit of the doubt even though shaking someone else's sand art is a jerk move.
But why would you shake someones sand art? Even if it's less sentimental, it's still a dick move.
I got an easy answer for you there, to be a dick
Yeah. Wow.
Exactly. I hate their friend now 😂
Since you planned to pour more anyway, why not use that as the base and pour more on top? Then you have something that symbolizes you two melding together but also staying as individuals going through life together. Or something like that. I am bad at metaphors lol
I think the time it took was the main reason I didn’t like the sand as a guest. I went to two weddings that did this. They were both long ceremonies that also had unity candles and members of the wedding party and family reading passages and singing. By the time it got to the sand I was starving and tired and wanted it to be over. That being said, no one should think it’s okay to pick it up and shake it! People don’t pick up guest book paintings and shake them, so why would they do it to your sand?! It’s symbolic and it’s art. I agree with other comments that the best solution is to blend the sand with a new color on your anniversary. If you don’t want to fill it to the top, you could always add a bit each year, but filling it is probably safer with friends that can’t keep their hands to themselves.
They can't just get away with this PLEASE tell us you've considered reaching out and calling her out on this disrespectful BS.
We had a Jenga tower thing so people could sign blocks and write notes on them, and all the blocks would go back into a plastic case so it can be a decorative piece.
Someone took two pieces at the wedding, so it doesn't actually fill up the case now, and one person left their bad review about the food on another block.
You really can't trust people to behave like adults at functions
That is foul... And I wish I thought of it first
Take it as a metaphor. When you and your wife are feeling unstable, possibly shaken up. Just remember you’re still in the same bottle.
This is beautiful
Another take based on OP’s backstory: A friend from out of town can shake up the marriage, but it continues strong.
Seems like a weird thing to symbolise a wedding since sand is famously bad for building solid foundations on.
Oh gosh with all the seriousness of a wedding day potentially ruined over this, your comment made me chuckle.
And apparently the goal is to keep the sand representing him and her as separated from each other as possible?
Long shot but if you live in USA ESPECIALLY in New England(I live in Massachussetts) you can send this to me and I'll completely separate it for you and send the container and different sand colors back so you can pour them back in as you like them. Or if you want just send me the sand in a baggie.I find this kind of thing VERY relaxing and it calms my anxiety. It's meditation to me.
Find your own sand lmao
Dammit, I want THEIR SAND!😂
I do have my own though. I like separating different colored sand, it's relaxing to me. I also do it with candy etc, anything that's mixed, I like separating. I have a lot of anxiety that comes from before I was adopted and it helps me because I'm focused on nothing but what's in front of me. Now that I'm 30 it's become the main way I meditate; I feel relaxed after, but also I feel like I accomplished something. So when I'm not at work or spending time with my boyfriend, that's what I like doing. That's why I figured I should offer the help, they send me their problem, pay the shipping (hence why I said especially if they're in New England, so it's cheap) I fix the problem, send it back and pay for the shipping. No payment for what I do, and it solved their problem; helps me relax and helps them have what they cherished be the way it was.
How would you separate mixed colors of sand? Grain by grain? Wouldn’t that take years?
So, in this container, it's not a lot of sand. What I would do is pour a little bit onto a paper that's folded in half. I would take my microscopic glasses (usually used for jewelers) and pick out lighter ones and move them onto another paper, darker ones go into another. I'd keep doing that and pouring in a little more sand until the sand from the container is done.
Then I'd take each paper and do the same process with the lighter ones and again with the darker ones. Then I'd put each pile through a fine sifter that I have to separate sizes of grains. What comes down from the sifter goes in one bag, what doesn't goes in a different bag and so on through the different colors.
The reason I offer this to this couple is there seems to be two main colors. That being said, their sand is based off memories and so after I separate the sand, they can place them back memories, for example, if the dark sand if from their first memories together, they'd place it back that way and then the light one after. However, they had it.
It doesn't take long, probably three days depending on how busy my personal schedule is, but if I had absolutely nothing to do besides eat and go to the bathroom, it would take around 3-5 hours from my past experience. The only reason I know is because I have lived in six countries and had something similar as their container of sand. I wanted to make a pattern out of the different sands and when I moved to the states they got mixed up and I fixed it in a full day. Of course I focused on nothing but that and redid the pattern, that's why it took a day, but it's not as tedious as it seems. The OP could do it by themselves, I just offered because I'd like to and also I don't know their schedules or if they have the patience for it.
Really channeling the Cinderella vibes there, at least in the retelling I have where she was actually called Ashputtel her stepmother says she can attend the ball as soon as she cleans up this mess and then dumps all the dry grains and lentils from the kitchen on the floor. Had to get all the animal friends to come help sort them out
Have you tried untangling yarn?
This is amazing because the script for these ceremonies is always all about how obviously once the sand is poured in together it can never possibly be separated back out, and you're just like, "let me at it, I got this"
Me a non American cannot describe my confusion
USA is the country, New England is the geographical area of the US along the north-eastern coast of the Atlantic, and then Massachusetts is the state itself 💙
It’s effectively the same as me saying I live in Nova Scotia, and that is in the Maritimes, but also within Canada.
USA is the country, New England is the region, Massachusetts is the state. ❤️
You separate sand, by color, one grain at a time?
Everything is ceremonial now... Can't a guy just shake some sand without it being the sacred ceremonial sand? /s
I dont know why, but that sounded alot like dwight
I think Dwight would be all about the ceremony and it being sacred, he was traditional sort of fellow on the beet farm and his own wedding where they stood in their graves.
I feel like It's more of Kevin or Creed thing to say
Definitely Kevin. I mean...chili...need I say more?
Aren't you supposed to fill it to the top so it can't displace?? How did you plan to stop it moving around for the long term?
Apparently they did half at the ceremony and stopped so they weren't boring their guests. They decided to do the rest at home and seal it but someone at the wedding shook it for funsies.
They were going to fill it later. It was on the bride and grooms table when said person went up and shook it....
I’m afraid you’ll have to divorce, remarry, try again.
The intrusive thoughts won
Wtf is ceremony sand?
Thats horrible. However, with so much negative space what was your plan on how to keep it right? One trip in the car and that was a goner anyway.
That’s exactly what I was thinking. OP said they were going to fill it up the rest of the way later but I guarantee that wasn’t going to make it home from the ceremony as is
They were gonna fill it up more at the wedding...
Ceremony sand sounds like more crap the wedding industry made up to take more money from people.
That sand jar will be $2000
In 5 years it will be in miscellaneous storage deep in your basement under piles of baby clothes
I would keep it and choose to think about it like this… just as this sand was shaken, your relationship too will go through adversity. You will grow together through the adversity and become even harder to separate through it all, just as the sand is now harder to separate.
Some wedding planner sold this shit for a 2500 dollars as an activity I'm sure of it.
I understand how it’s disrespectful, but if they’re meant to be together, they’re now intertwined forever. Sort of beautiful in that aspect. I’m sorry someone did that though.
Just shake it a little more every year. Eventually it’s all the same color and that is what you two are…
Obviously thought it was a ceremonial wedding snow globe, super popular with the gender reveal and live life love crowd.
Nothing could be more symbolic of marriage. The bottle was shaken but you’ll carry on.
i’m sorry to see this .. my husband and picked rocks from a beach and we handed them out in the ceremony fit everyone to say a wish for us and then re-collected the rocks and have them in a jar in our living room .. i get who it is so valuable and ruined now for you.
I'm sorry the what sand??
While this is certainly a dick move by the shaker, there’s a silver lining in the sentiment that you poured yourselves into this jar separate and are now one, making it nearly impossible to distinguish where one meets and the other ends. You’re eternally bonded like the grains of sand now are. 🤷♀️ maybe?
Got married two years ago and I have no idea what this is or why I should be mad about it
I thought you were supposed to mix the sand..... Two becomes one?
Yeah they're supposed to do it. Not have a random stranger do it.
Do they need to bring that person into the relationship now?
Trust me, life's gonna throw bigger curveballs than this.
Now the marriage is complete
My wife and I did this. Ours is sitting in the box, somwhere, lol!
But, yeah, not cool!
I thought the point of unity sand is that eventually vibrations in the environment cause the two colors to mix and become indistinguishable. I guess someone just decided to speed up the process.
What's mildly infuriating is that you would post this without bothering to explain what "ceremony sand" is, and what the significance of shaking it is.
The what?
not your SAND!???!!!
I was the bridesmaid responsible for getting my friend's sand bottle home from the ceremony down a winding gravel road, and let me tell you: the level of care I held onto that thing, you woulda thought I was holding a bottle of fucking plutonium
Wtf is ceremony sand?
Think of this as the inevitable progression of marriage. When once it was possible to differentiate between your separate lives as they intermingled in the jar, now your lives are indistinguishable and fully combined.
There is also something to be said about the effect that outside influence has on your marriage. It did not separate the sands, but forced them to more thoroughly integrate.
Really shake and mix it now so it’s very even. Then on your first anniversary, repeat the process with a darker one to create a new pattern
Probably a video on Reddit somewhere where someone sorts each grain of sand and redoes it.