tw for the nashville shooting & related transphobia

sorry i’m really fucking mad rn seeing how quickly transphobes are jumping on the “testosterone makes trans men violent killers”

because no fucking shit they’re doing this. i’m so pissed at the people who act like there’s no way transphobes would ever see transmascs as anything but helpless little girls, as if that narrative itself isn’t something relatively new & only got popular because it was useful. of fucking course the minute they have an excuse they are going to switch from “T mutilates women’s bodies” to “T makes women into psycho killers”, especially non-radfems who don’t give a damn about women’s rights in the first place. the only reason that the pity narrative got big is because radfems changed their tune from “women betraying women to get male privilege” to “poor little girls swindled into betraying womanhood” which was useful to non-feminist conservatives & their desire to control women. now they have the perfect opportunity to change up their transphobia to make transmascs into dangerous murderers & even more justification to ban HRT & criminalize testosterone specifically.

transmascs have already had to deal with people assuming we will get more violent and aggressive after starting T before this, & i’m very worried that is going to become a mainstream transphobic narrative. just watch how quickly transphobes are gonna use this to demonize testosterone and people who take it. its already happening:

i’ve done the darn thing. i’ve been working on this for a little while now so i’m glad it’s finally Presentable

this probably won’t be the final form, i’m most likely going to keep updating it as time goes along, but as of right now this is how I conceptualize transandrophobia, and the major components from what i’ve experienced + read. i’m hoping this might be useful for people trying to figure out if/how they’ve experienced transandrophobia, and for recognizing transandrophobic rhetoric when they come across it.

i also put an entire disclaimer at the beginning, making it crystal fucking clear what i mean before you even get to read anything, so if anybody misinterprets any of this it is officially 100% on them.

actually re: lesbophobia “having a slur in it” I think part of an interesting phenomenon in constructing outrage.

because there are clearly a lot of young lesbians on Twitter who feel very strongly about this. they are genuinely upset that nonlesbians are saying lesbophobia.

but the reason they are upset is because someone told them that lesbophobia has a slur in it, therefore it’s a bad word. their emotions on this are very real but if the idea that it’s a bad word had not been presented to them, I doubt they would have ever felt negatively about the word.

& I think this is important to consider because a lot of people will use their personal emotions as proof something is bad. they feel disgusted, enraged, upset by something, therefore it’s true that it’s morally bad.

but the root source of these emotions is a constructed idea that that thing is bad. these emotions came from being told that a certain thing is bad, so you SHOULD feel disgusted by it, even if that thing does not actually harm anyone. the harm is conceptual, but the emotions that conceptual harm create are very real.

I think this also happens a lot in identity discourse, especially when the water gets muddied from preconceived ideas. You here the word “bi lesbian”, and are immediately confused because you can’t understand how that works. And then someone comes and tells you that it’s a transphobic term made by TERFs, and so you are validated in your initial confusion and now get to hate bi lesbians, even though materially bi lesbians do no actual harm to bisexuals or lesbians (and TERFs generally hate the idea that lesbians can be attracted to men). It’s very easy to prey on people’s preconceived ideas & unchecked biases to lead them into strong emotional reactions to certain things, which then self-perpetuates the idea that [x thing] is bad because I feel upset by it and I’m a marginalized person, therefore me feeling upset proves it’s bad.

& bc of this I think it’s important to check yourself and the reasons why you are upset with certain things. does X thing actually cause harm, is it actually [x]phobic? were you told that it was and now have a strong emotional response to that thing, even if you have either never seen that harm in action or only seen it when it’s filtered through people who already hate that thing? this is why I’m very insistent on proving something causes real material harm, because going off off of hypotheticals is useless except for witch hunts.

I love being transmasc and going on TikTok to be reminded that I’m a whiny bitch with no issues who should shut the fuck up

someone mentioned in the tags of one of my posts, but firedrills by dessa really fucking went for the throat re: victimhood. + womanhood. it’s wildly refreshing to hear someone point out how hypervigilance and widespread androphobia (as in fear of men) isn’t anti-patriarchal, its part of the patriarchy. according to genius dessa herself said “I didn’t write this song […] because I’m angry at bad men, I wrote this song because I believe in good men.”

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!! oh! shit! i truly was not expecting so many people to like my silly little trans posting but I’m glad y'all do lmao

I’m so tired of liberal LGBT people

@man-squared tbh we should. trans M&Ms unite

instagram comments being normal about transmascs as per usual

context is these were on a video of a trans guy joking about hearing someone calling him girl and being pissed until he realized they were just gay and friendly. people eventually agreed that trans men being dysphoric is not toxic masculinity but red in the screenshots kept pulling this childish “I’m not touching you!” routine when folks pointed out that they were being weird and transphobic

I do seriously recommend checking out our flag means death for many reasons (it’s all around an amazing show) but specifically because of jim jimenez. because when I started watching it, I legit thought to myself, “I don’t know if I can handle another "crossdressing woman is extremely cis and in love with a man” story.“ I’m so tired of seeing transmasculinity be used as a joke or as a nightmare for cis women.

And then? It wasn’t. Jim Jimenez is a clearly nonbinary Latine pirate who uses they/them pronouns and gets to have a slow-burn romance with a man. On screen. Blatantly. They wear men’s clothing and specifically realized they were trans through crossdressing. And they are played by a nonbinary actor!

This show has some of my favorite queer rep I’ve seen (like I cannot stress enough how insanely and blatantly queer every facet of this show is after ep 3) but Jim specifically? Absolutely warms my heart.

Originally posted by idontwikeit