Understanding flooding is a crucial first step to resolving conflicts together in your relationship.
Conflict is uncomfortable for most people, but learning how to handle it is crucial. "When you’re in conflict with somebody and you become flooded with fear or anger, all your best intentions can go out the window." - Dr. John Gottman Flooding has a number of indicators: Your voice escalates in volume. You interrupt or talk over your partner. You express things you don't truly mean. Try the Flooding Questionnaire to assess how you and your partner can fight flooding together and maintain your connection during conflict conversations. For this exercise, you will both jot down your thoughts. When completed, share your answers and talk about their implications. Make sure that you and your partner are not currently flooded while completing the questionnaire. If tensions rise or flooding recurs, don't hesitate to call for a time-out. Self-soothing requires practice and repetition. With time, managing it becomes more manageable and less daunting. Read more about Flooding and Conflict Avoidance on The Gottman Relationship Blog here: https://bit.ly/3PK3e9R