Anonymous asked: I want to live by myself when I move out of my parent's place but I'm really afraid of money problems? I'm afraid that the only place I can afford will be in the ghetto and it'll all be torn apart and I'll only be allowed to eat one granola bar a week. I'm really stressing out about this. I don't know anything about after school life. I don't know anything about paying bills or how to buy an apartment and it's really scaring me. is there anything you know that can help me?
Once you’ve looked over all those cool links, I have some general advice for you on how you can have some sort of support system going for you:
Reasons to move out of home
You may decide to leave home for many different reasons, including:
wishing to live independently
location difficulties – for example, the need to move closer to university
conflict with your parents
being asked to leave by your parents.
Issues to consider when moving out of home
It’s common to be a little unsure when you make a decision like leaving
home. You may choose to move, but find that you face problems you didn’t
anticipate, such as:
Unreadiness – you may find you are not quite ready to handle all the responsibilities.
Money worries – bills including rent, utilities like gas
and electricity and the cost of groceries may catch you by surprise,
especially if you are used to your parents providing for everything.
Debt may become an issue.
Flatmate problems – issues such as paying bills on time,
sharing housework equally, friends who never pay board, but stay
anyway, and lifestyle incompatibilities (such as a non-drug-user
flatting with a drug user) may result in hostilities and arguments.
Your parents may be worried
Think about how your parents may be feeling and talk with them if they
are worried about you. Most parents want their children to be happy and
independent, but they might be concerned about a lot of different
things. For example:
They may worry that you are not ready.
They may be sad because they will miss you.
They may think you shouldn’t leave home until you are married or have bought a house.
They may be concerned about the people you have chosen to live with.
Reassure your parents that you will keep in touch and visit regularly.
Try to leave on a positive note. Hopefully, they are happy about your
plans and support your decision.
Tips for a successful move
Tips include:
Don’t make a rash decision – consider the situation
carefully. Are you ready to live independently? Do you make enough money
to support yourself? Are you moving out for the right reasons?
Draw up a realistic budget – don’t forget to include
‘hidden’ expenses such as the property’s security deposit or bond
(usually four weeks’ rent), connection fees for utilities, and home and
contents insurance.
Communicate – avoid misunderstandings, hostilities and
arguments by talking openly and respectfully about your concerns with
flatmates and parents. Make sure you’re open to their point of view too –
getting along is a two-way street.
Keep in touch – talk to your parents about regular home visits: for example, having Sunday night dinner together every week.
Work out acceptable behaviour – if your parents don’t
like your flatmate(s), find out why. It is usually the behaviour rather
than the person that causes offence (for example, swearing or smoking).
Out of respect for your parents, ask your flatmate(s) to be on their
best behaviour when your parents visit and do the same for them.
Ask for help – if things are becoming difficult, don’t be too proud to ask your parents for help. They have a lot of life experience.
If your family home does not provide support
Not everyone who leaves home can return home or ask their parents for
help in times of trouble. If you have been thrown out of home or left
home to escape abuse or conflict, you may be too young or unprepared to
cope.
If you are a fostered child, you will have to leave the state-care
system when you turn 18, but you may not be ready to make the sudden
transition to independence.
If you need support, help is available from a range of community and
government organisations. Assistance includes emergency accommodation
and food vouchers. If you can’t call your parents or foster parents,
call one of the associations below for information, advice and
assistance.
Where to get help
Your doctor
Kids Helpline Tel. 1800 55 1800
Lifeline Tel. 13 11 44
Home Ground Services Tel. 1800 048 325
Relationships Australia Tel. 1300 364 277
Centrelink Crisis or Special Help Tel. 13 28 50
Tenants Union of Victoria Tel. (03) 9416 2577
Things to remember
Try to solve any problems before you leave home. Don’t leave because
of a fight or other family difficulty if you can possibly avoid it.
Draw up a realistic budget that includes ‘hidden’ expenses,
such as bond, connection fees for utilities, and home and contents
insurance.
Remember that you can get help from a range of community and government organizations.
Nothing will ever be as funny to me as doctor who from the masters pov. Your best friend wanders into the woods and befriends a group of squirrels. He decides he will protect that specific tree with his life, even at the cost of your own species. You are the last two humans in the world. You once again try to burn down that fucking tree
op i am howling
how dare you hide this in the tags!
Also one time you tricked the squirrels into electing you Squirrel President.
I’m currently having a bout of temporary insanity and wondering if I should have grown/cut (as needed) my hair into a typical Victorian men’s haircut before I let it grow out so I could carefully document growing hair out from that specific length and style in order to write the romance novel I’m writing about how much it sucks to want long hair and not have long hair (it’s about other stuff too)
Fortunately the bout of temporary insanity is 1) temporary and 2) not so strong that I’m even considering backtracking. The next time this hair sees scissors it will be to just even it up and make it look less like a disaster
I’ve been resource gathering for YEARS so now I am going to share my dragons hoard
Floorplanner. Design and furnish a house for you to use for having a consistent background in your comic or anything! Free, you need an account, easy to use, and you can save multiple houses.
Comparing Heights. Input the heights of characters to see what the different is between them. Great for keeping consistency. Free.
Magma. Draw online with friends in real time. Great for practice or hanging out. Free, paid plan available, account preferred.
SketchDaily. Lots of pose references, massive library, is set on a timer so you can practice quick figure drawing. Free.
SculptGL. A sculpting tool which I am yet to master, but you should be able to make whatever 3d object you like with it. free.
Pexels. Free stock images. And the search engine is actually pretty good at pulling up what you want.
Figurosity. Great pose references, diverse body types, lots of “how to draw” videos directly on the site, the models are 3d and you can rotate the angle, but you can’t make custom poses or edit body proportions. Free, account option, paid plans available.
Line of Action. More drawing references, this one also has a focus on expressions, hands/feet, animals, landscapes. Free.
Animal Photo. You pose a 3d skull model and select an animal species, and they give you a bunch of photo references for that animal at that angle. Super handy. Free.
Height Weight Chart. You ever see an OC listed as having a certain weight but then they look Wildly different than the number suggests? Well here’s a site to avoid that! It shows real people at different weights and heights to give you a better idea of what these abstract numbers all look like. Free to use.
