How I learned to stop worrying and love the rain
We tend to forget that we have absolute power about anything in our lives.
I have been thinking about what makes these two conversations different:
Jack: This dish needs seasoning
Emily: Add salt and pepper instead?
and the second one:
Jack: FFS London weather is so shit, it’s raining again — as always!
Emily: Move to another city with better climate?
Why people would chose to season the dish, but not move to a sunny city? The expected reaction to this question should be:
Jack: But I have a great job here, my friends are in this city, it’s location is this good, this that and blah blah… So no, I wouldn’t chose to lose/leave everything and move away.
OK let’s get this straight, correct me if I am wrong:
Emily: You have countless number of possibilities in front of you, but the two significant ones are: 1) You move to another city, lose your current job, be away from your friends, and all the consequences that you just told me.. 2) You stay in London, you keep everything you have and it rains on you. Of all the possibilities, you choose to live here. You choose to live in London because of all the benefits that you say, and you well know that London is a rainy city, so why complain?
Do you have a sense of where I am getting to?
I constantly see people forgetting the purpose of things they do and why they are doing them, not in small but in large scale actions, especially the ones spanning over long periods of time and appear as a must/routine.
Did you see anyone who’s eating a Big Mac and at the same time complaining that it is too greasy after each bite? How would you feel? Would you feel doing this is quite weak?
That’s the same feeling I have when one of my friends complain about rain in London. It’s the same thing as Big Mac, only they need to realise it is their own choice to live here and get wet.
I believe only after you take ownership of the problems, you can transform them. Realising that it is your choice to live in a rainy city is the first step to realise it is you have the ability to change it. Isn’t taking ownership and being responsible a much powerful stand?
Next time something bothers you, try to see if that is something that you let into your life. The answer should almost always be a yes.
